|Kids are good listeners – much better listeners than we think. One day, two boys were discussing marriage, when one said to the other, “Did you know Pastor said it’s okay to have more than one wife?””Are you kidding?”
“No way! He said you can have as many as 16.”
“16? Why 16?”
“There’s 4 better, 4 worse, 4 richer, and 4 poorer.”
While the kids in this story had no concept of marriage, some married adults apply the same ignorance to their marriage vows. They see three or four potential mates who have a better personality, a more attractive figure, or a deeper pocketbook than their current spouse; and their eyes begin to wander. Their commitment to their spouse begins to wane, and they follow the slippery slope toward marital infidelity.
How can a Christian avoid traveling down the road of adultery? One way to avoid this terrible, debilitating sin is to reinforce your marriage. Here are five ways you can build a hedge of marital protection:
- Make Jesus Christ the Centerpiece of your marriage. As you put pleasing Him above all else, you will find it easier to love your spouse and children. (“Seventeen Rules for a Happy Marriage from God’s Great Book” – Joe Crews)
- Marriage is not a contract. Devote 100% of yourself to growing and maintaining your marriage, even if your spouse does not reciprocate. (“10 Good Christian Marriage Rules” – David Peach)
- Control your thoughts. Overthinking can be the death of any good relationship. Instead of reading into your spouse’s words and actions, learn to trust and assume the best. Also, avoid the appearance of evil so your spouse will have no cause for suspicion. (“Seventeen Rules for a Happy Marriage from God’s Great Book” – Joe Crews)
- Pray together to stay together. Communicate with God about all of your marital concerns – and do it together. (“Seventeen Rules for a Happy Marriage from God’s Great Book” – Joe Crews)
- Keep the fire burning. Do you remember the things you did with your spouse before you were married – you know, the things which caused your spouse to fall in love with you in the first place? Keep doing these things so your relationship will remain exciting. (“Seventeen Rules for a Happy Marriage from God’s Great Book” – Joe Crews)
As you practice these principles, your marriage will last, your home will endure, and your relationship will be a shining testimony of the relationship between Christ and His bride, the Church.
Devotional by Pastor Jim, Scudder, Jr.