So you think you have your husband all figured out? Let’s see how well you can interpret these familiar “guy” phrases:

  • “It’s a guy thing.”
    Translated: “It requires no rational thought.”
  • “It would take too long to explain.”
    Translated: “I have no idea how it works.”
  • “I can’t find it.”
    Translated: “It didn’t fall into my outstretched arms.”
  • “I’m not lost.”
    Translated: “No one will ever see us alive again.”

Communication is vital to any healthy relationship, especially marriage. Yet this relationship most frequently suffers from miscommunication. Because marriage is a relationship shared by two completely different people, there are frequent conflicts of interest. A marriage’s success rests upon both the husband’s and wife’s decision to frequently deny themselves for the other’s benefit.

Here are God’s three ingredients for a happy marriage:

  1. Leave – This is not to abandon, but to live independent of the parents.
  2. Cleave – This means to be glued or cemented to your marriage partner. It refers to the physical union as well as union of purpose and goals, which necessitates communication.
  3. Become one flesh – This does not suggest that either marriage partner give up his individuality, but the intent is for the husband and wife to cooperate as one person. This also requires communication.

God cares about your marriage, because it portrays the relationship between Christ and the Church. If you have been married for any length of time, evaluate your relationship to make sure it contains these ingredients. Communicate with your spouse about problems you are having, and work together to resolve them. If you are considering marriage someday, see to it that you and your prospective spouse understand and apply these Biblical principles so you will have a healthy, successful marriage.

Only Christ can make a bad marriage good and a good marriage great. Right now, determine you will let Him preside over your relationship.

[God intended marriage for] the mutual society, help, and comfort that the one ought to have of the other both in prosperity and adversity. — Book of Common Prayer

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.