I once read about an older woman who was celebrating her golden wedding anniversary. Someone asked what her secret was to a long and happy marriage. She said, “On my wedding day, I decided to make a list of ten of my husband’s faults which, for the sake of our marriage, I would overlook.”

One of the relatives jokingly asked her what some of the faults she had chosen to overlook were. She replied, “To tell you the truth, I never did get around to listing them. But whenever my husband did something that made me hopping mad, I would say to myself, ‘Lucky for him that’s one of the ten!’”

After 50 years of love and forgiveness, it’s no wonder this marriage thrived. But what should you do when the inevitable conflict happens and your feelings are hurt because of an argument with your spouse? Should you book a one-way trip home to Mom and Dad? Should you tell your side of the story to all of your friends so they can sympathize with you? No. Take your hurt feelings to the Lord, and ask Him to replace them with love and forgiveness toward your spouse.

God cares about your marriage, and He has given you everything you need to face the challenges in your relationship. His love has covered a multitude of your sins. Can you do anything less for your spouse? I challenge you to make a list of 10 things you can’t stand about your spouse — and choose to forget it. Replace each complaint with love today.

Have such an anger and displeasure against a fault, as will work to heal it; but not such as will cause festering and aggravation of the diseased part. This will turn anger into compassion. — Richard Baxter

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.