After bantering back and forth with his wife, a husband asked, “Honey, why did you ever marry me?”
She didn’t miss a beat as she said, “Because I was stupid.”
The husband said, “That’s very good.”
The wife wanted to know why. He told her — “Well, I know there are a lot of people who fall out of love, but no one ever fell out of stupid before.”
Marriage can be a lot of fun. But have you ever thought about why God came up with the idea?
From today’s Scripture passage, we see that God’s intent for marriage was to provide man with companionship. This was not just for the sake of Adam’s need for companionship, but so that Adam would provide companionship for the wife God provided him.
Herein lies an important truth: Marriage is a vow to meet the other person’s needs, not our own. God’s design is that we enter marriage to give ourselves to our spouse, rather than to take from them. Each marriage partner should ask the following questions: (1) how can I please God? and (2) how can I please my spouse? These are questions you will have to ask yourself every day for the rest of your marriage if you want it to be successful.
The success of a marriage is dependent upon the amount of work you put into it. What are you doing to make yours a winner? Think about your actions toward your spouse. Do they tend to be self-serving or selfless? Do you love your spouse because of who they are, or because of what you can get from the relationship?
When you practice marriage God’s way, the end result will not be the realization that your spouse has become just like you, but rather the discovery of a new individual with the essence of both. God wants you to experience nothing less.
I have many reasons to make me love thee, whereof I will name two, first because thou lovest God, and secondly because that thou lovest me. — Margaret Winthrop, in a letter to her husband
Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.