History has not been very kind to women over the years. Napoleon said, “Nature intended women to be slaves. They are our property.” The historian, Josephus, said, “A woman is inferior to man in every way.”

While the world has generally abused and exploited women, God has elevated them above the standards of society and set specific guidelines for the way they are to be treated. This is especially true in the marriage relationship. In His design, God gave men authority to lead in the home, but this authority was balanced with the commandment for husbands to love their wives. Only when the husband accepts his full responsibility can his wife entrust him with his due authority.

In far too many homes today, men have abused their God-given authority and created an atmosphere of fear. Insecurity and an inability to lead cause them to demand compliance with their wishes just to prove their authority exists. Their leadership at home is best described as a dictatorship. A marriage cannot long survive under these circumstances.

Here are three things a woman needs in her husband:

  1. Protection
  2. Provision
  3. Passion

The man is to be the initiator in these aspects of marriage, while the woman is to be the completer. This is God’s design. Only when both marriage partners perform their respective roles according to this design can there be mutual fulfillment.

So husbands, treat your wives as equals. Love them so much that they want to reverence you. Put a premium on their counsel, and then be man enough to accept the responsibility for making the final decision. Wives, allow your husbands to lead. Assure them of your confidence in their leadership ability, and submit to them as you would to God Himself.

God cares about your marriage, and with His help, yours can thrive.

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. — Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.