Kate and Sarah have been friends for several years. Not long ago, another friend told Sarah that Kate had said something negative about her. Now Sarah doesn’t know what to do.

Conflict is never easy and it is especially difficult when it involves those in the body of Christ. Nobody enjoys conflict (except a select few!) and when it comes to dealing with people, feelings are bound to get hurt. When it comes to talking to brothers and sisters in Christ who have hurt us, many times our knees grow weak and our breathing speeds up. We can hardly think of what to say or how to say what we want to say.

Yet the Bible tells us that when a brother has hurt us, it is up to us not to spread gossip about what he said or didn’t say, but rather to go to him.

Remember these three principles for dealing with potential conflicts:

  1. Before you go to the person, make sure you consider some of the reasons the person might have done what he or she did. Has he suffered from illness? Has she had a difficult time at work lately?
  2. When you talk, make sure you do it privately.
  3. Ask the Lord to give you wisdom while you talk and also an understanding heart. Make an effort to see where the person is coming from.

Follow these helps and discover how to walk in true Christian love and harmony.

Who never admits wrong loves pride more than facts. — Unknown Author

Devotional by Dr. James A. Scudder