If I’ve chosen to forgive, why is it so hard to forget? When someone reminded her of a past hurt, Clara Barton, the founder of the Red Cross, acted as if the incident had never even happened. “Don’t you remember it?” Clara’s friend asked.

“No, I distinctly remember forgetting it.”

Forgetting others’ offenses is more than a matter of will, however. In Philippians 3:12, the Apostle Paul explains: “Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.” Paul was vulnerable, humble, and determined. He was a real man.

Real men are vulnerable enough to openly acknowledge their weaknesses. If people see us as pious, religious do-gooders, we’ll build walls rather than destroy them. Real men are also humble enough to realize they’re not perfect. We need to remember this the next time we judge someone for a petty offense. Finally, real men are determined enough to move on. They can see the big picture. They have more pressing concerns to attend to—things of eternal value.

Are you determined to be the real man or woman God wants you to be? Release your grudges, your bitterness, and your hard feelings so as to experience His liberating freedom today.

Every person should have a special cemetery lot in which to bury the faults of friends and loved ones. — Unknown Author

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.