Conflict. Most people hate it. In a perfect world, we’d all get along; but we live in a fallen world where people are misunderstood, feelings are hurt, and agendas are pursued. What can a Christian do when conflict arises, and how can he best deal with it without intentionally creating an enemy?
I’ve had to deal with conflict over the years. And while I haven’t been perfect, I’ve learned many valuable lessons about handling disagreements. Hopefully some of these pointers can help you in your life:
- Try not to provoke the other person. Even if you are right and the other person is wrong, do your best to keep your feelings in check.
- When you are right, use humility and grace.
- Consider yourself. Don’t allow yourself to say, “I would never have done what this person did.”
- Apologize. Be the first to seek reconciliation. You’d be surprised at how disarming a genuine “I’m sorry” can be.
- Sacrifice where necessary, but not your core values. Be willing to give of yourself if it means resolving the conflict.
God wants us to live in harmony with our brothers and sisters in the Lord, so we should seek peace. Sometimes that’s not possible. Sometimes you have to deal with difficult people. But when conflict arises, pray that God will give you the wisdom to deal with it Biblically.
Devotional by Dr. James A. Scudder